How to Respond When People Talk About Your Spouse

1/1/2017

So many of you have seen the video of my husband speaking on forgiveness, and talking about how we had recently found out that some folks were talking about us - especially me. ?

I admit: it was hard. But my hubby came through for me with such great encouragement that I couldn't keep it to myself. I asked him permission to copy and paste, then post the text messages he sent to me on my blog. I wanted them to serve as an awesome example of how a godly spouse responds with encouragement when someone has been talking about their husband/wife. Of course he said yes!

I have broken up each individual text message so you can see exactly how his texts came through to my phone - this was so much life to me!? ? This is what the Bible means when it says that husbands are to wash their wives with water by the word (of God). Eph. 5:26.

See below for personal, private texts from my hubby, and an awesome example of spousal support...
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Hey boo I just want to let you know that you are the BEST woman that I know. Astoundingly loving, amazingly positive, breathtakingly beautiful, and so pure in heart ❤️
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That's the way I see you and many others see you. You are an amazing wife and a virtuous woman! You always have been, and you will continue to be. The enemy wants to poison you with the wrong opinions of a few. But you know who you are, I know who you are, and hundreds more know who you are. Many women and young ladies have said to me on multiple occasions, "I want to be like your wife."

YOU ARE GODLY! And that is the light of Christ. That's what you have. It draws people, and then you show them who God is. That's what I love about you. You have challenged me in our ten years just by being so good-hearted and loving no matter what. That's what JESUS was like.
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Some people want you to become what you were not meant to be. But I like what I see from you because you are EVERYTHING that God meant for you to be. I am honored to call you my wife! You amaze me every day. I love your heart and I love you!
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YOU ARE B E A U T I F U L!!
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I love you!!! As we grow and our reach grows, it's important to remind ourselves of who we were. And that is the same person we still are. Just wiser and more patient lol. It's challenging not to let the opinions of others (good or bad) change us. Too much of the good and that could lead to the temptation of pride. I'm glad that we are challenged with these things so we can take a clear look at ourselves and make sure that we are everything that God wants us to be.

Some people don't like spinach. Some don't like cake. In 2017, I’m telling people, "I f I'm not your flavor, you don't have to choose me. Just keep it movin!"

*Mic drop* ?
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I'm seeing now, because you are an amazing wife, and you claim to be as well, the enemy is going to come after your confession... he wants you to stop saying it, and stop believing it.
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We have to say daily over you

You are an amazing, godly and virtuous woman and wife!
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I just got a revelation!

If the enemy can't get you to do wrong, he will make up stories about wrongdoing and put you in it!

Just look at Joseph and how he was accused of sleeping with Photip. wife. That was actually a testament to his integrity. The devil couldn't get him to do wrong so he made up wrongdoing. And the scripture actually says that she tried to come on to him over and over and he kept denying. So finally she made something up. WOW...that will preach.
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Gen. 39:10
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And it says that Joseph was handsome and attractive.

29 Comments

Niki Winston

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Charlie Fisher link

1/1/2017 06:25:05 pm

You are both destined for acceleration in advancing the kingdom! The scripture tells us "woe unto you when all men speak well of you." Satan is also an Accuser of the brethren.
Niki your husband is a king and you are a queen! Thank you both for being shining lights for our Lord!
Happy and prosperous New Year! 2017

1/2/2017 12:29:06 pm

Thank you sir for the encouragement! Praise the Lord!!

Rosa bevier

1/1/2017 06:30:32 pm

Well your amazing and we love you here in Adrian mi. all my young girls and women order your books And just love you. So keep doing all you do because your shaking up hell lol

1/2/2017 12:28:42 pm

Amen! Thank you Pastor Rosa! I love you all so much!

Darb

1/1/2017 06:38:03 pm

I'm loving that part about Joseph... That's good WORD Da-Veed, lol... Blessings to you both.

David Winston

1/2/2017 01:10:01 am

LOL!! Thanks Darb! Thanks for reading Niki's blog.

Samantha Wright

1/1/2017 07:07:47 pm

Awesomeness!! Missed you last night. Hope you weren't fighting and illness. Blessing to both of you in 2017

1/2/2017 12:28:07 pm

Thank you for your concern! We are great. Everyone's healthy! Sometimes we just need to celebrate NYE a little differently when we have small ones at home. ;)

Yvonne harris link

1/1/2017 08:13:40 pm

This is a old hood saying when people are talking about you that mean you are doing something right now if they are not talking about you that mean you doing something wrong keep doing right & trust & believe one day the peeps who talking will eventually have to do right it's sad what goes around comes around & they gonna wish they should've kept their mouths closed tight

1/2/2017 12:27:21 pm

God is good. This situation was meant to weaken and hurt us, but my husband used it for his message on forgiveness, and I was able to encourage couples as a result. It was just material to use to bless people!

Ebony Cook

1/1/2017 08:19:29 pm

This is so beautiful! I love you two and I am so grateful to be able to learn from you all. Blessings!

Gloria Hernandez

1/1/2017 09:50:22 pm

That is so true you are a great mentor,virtuous woman and those who like to be around you

1/2/2017 12:25:49 pm

Thank you Gloria! Good to hear from you!

1/2/2017 12:26:11 pm

Wonderful! We are honored.

Vickie Ann Belser

1/1/2017 09:59:34 pm

Hi Niki,
Ten Years Is Really Really A Long Time To Be With Your Husband! I Started To Speak In Tongues Realizing What The Enemy Tries (Even With You'll)! I Don't Know You Personally BUT Spiritually...You Must Know What You Have With Your Husband! Letting These Platforms Know What Your Husband (David) Says Is Wonderful BUT You (Niki) Must TRULY Know For Yourself! PEACE AND Divine Unity To You AND Your Union With Your Husband!!!

1/2/2017 12:25:25 pm

Agreed! And I do! Thank you for your prayers!

Jason Williams

1/1/2017 10:23:02 pm

Powerful Words, Both You First Lady and Pastor David remind me of Genesis 5:2, God called both of you David... Ya'll show how it is to be one and God has used One (both of you) mightily to teach the Kingdom, It is a honor to know ya'll and serve with ya'll in the work of the Kingdom and it is going to be great to see how God increases the ministry birthed through The two who became One....

1/2/2017 12:24:48 pm

Thanks, Jason! This is beautiful!

Francine Taylor

1/1/2017 11:45:20 pm

On the side of every Proverbs 31:10-31 Wife is a Proverbs 31 Husband. Pastor David you most definitely, exemplifies this type of husband by spiritually interceding, motivated, encouraging, and uplifting your wife, Sis. Niki! I am very thankful to God for blessing me to read these words from a real God-fearing husband who covers his wife whole heartily and without a facade. Through these words you have spoken to my sista, the Word of God was and is manifested that, Niki...
27 She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children (Jake, Jordan, Joshua, Lily) rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband (you, Pastor David) also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you (Sis. Niki) excel them all.” in Jesus NAME!!! Thank YOU both for sharing this powerful, inspirational message! Sis. Niki tune out and cast down every negative word that was spoken against you and heed to these words from your own husband who KNOWS YOU...😊 This really inspired me! Love you all!🙌 God bless...💝😊👼

1/2/2017 12:23:23 pm

Yes! Verse 29 - he does this all the time, and I'm so grateful!

Kenya Williams

1/2/2017 08:08:40 am

I love your relationship with God and Each Other. People will always talk and lie let them. Just as David said remind each other who you are in Christ and what you have and that will continue to flourish. What I've learned is that when people are talking about you lieing and even mistreating you it's because they are jealous and want what you have and I always say you don't have to tear me down just seek God and you will have the desires of your heart too. God is no respector of person.Like Pastor said on yesterday do not get robbed of your anointing being jealous. So I say you guys are anointed and blessed. Keep living as a King and Queen. It's always beautiful to see Godly Encouragement!! Just Beautiful I teared up❤️❤️❤️

Joseph Castillo link

1/2/2017 09:09:10 am

wow I need to get some notes out of Ptr Dave's book!

1/2/2017 12:22:27 pm

He's actually working on a book now! It's not geared toward husbands, but it will be good!
He and I have a plan in the works for a book for husbands in 2018.

Nicole McGee

1/2/2017 11:43:10 am

Thank you for sharing....it takes tremendous courage to be transparent and Sister Niki, you do it so very well!

I have personally witnessed your compassion, love for others and your strength! You are an amazing example of the word LOVE; I have many times thanked you ( and Pastor David) for being a natural manifestation of God's love in the earth.

I have come to realize .. those who "hate" on others are actually admirers that don't have courage to compliment another, due to their own feelings of insignificance or self- worth. Sad.. but true.

You doll, are absolutely fan- tab ulous! Keep shining brightly and don't ever stop being amazingly-you!

I say that for those that couldn't! Love you!!!!!

1/2/2017 12:21:06 pm

I love it! Haters are just admirers too insecure to compliment you! What a wonderful example of 1Cor 13! Love thinks the best of others! Thanks, Nicole!

Lenee Bailey

1/2/2017 02:05:15 pm

You are advancing in The Kingdom of God.
Thanks for being love and light!
God Bless You!

Lynda D. Brown

1/2/2017 05:30:29 pm

Praise God! Awesome response from a great man of God, but honestly, I wouldn't expect anything less from David Winston. Pastor Bill and Sister Veronica made sure that they raised him under the watchful eyes of the Lord. Proud to be a partner of such a Blessed ministry. Let the naysayers take note!

Living Word Member

3/20/2018 11:51:50 am

Sister Nicki,
Such a challenging trial. You always have the victory. So excited for you that "it worketh" ...it being the trial..it is turning you into even more gold. Who would of thunk you could get even better😄. We are sooo blessed to have you at Living Word! The trial..it's working for you a greater weight of glory. I love that trials are my servant and work for me. Read your book last year and yep it changed me. Thank the Lord..I needed it. Thanks for writing it!

3/20/2018 12:28:42 pm

I hope it's okay to post this. Its just my heart.
I was speaking with a teen a few months back who was different than the environment he lived in presently...I shared with him that everything about him from appearance and personality to his attributes and giftings are a blessing to where he is assigned. Everything God designed in him is perfect for his assignment. That Gods timing is not off and sometimes God will send in someone different to get a few peoples attention, get things in order or even rearrange things. Now I am not so slow to believe everything has to do with ethnicity..I'm not talking about ethnicity per se. but I believe sometimes God will inject those with great hope among the hopeless..or a great attitude among those lacking in positivity...fearless among the fearful. All I know is when God assigns a person..many times the environment tries not to receive the change that person carries in them. The environment true to spew out the hopeful so it can hang onto hopelessness..spew out true leadership so.it.can.hang onto chaos..but thanks be to God the Devil doesnt have the power to stop the plan..love always wins.Gods plan and power always prevail..the presence of their person is no mistake and can break up some rough ground as they keep their eyes on Jesus. By the way Living Word loves you. I learned that if I give the majority of my focus to the two challenging kids in my classroom I miss the other 28 that are behaving.

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